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The Daily Post this morning wants to know: What’s the most time you’ve ever spent apart from your favorite person? Tell us about it.
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That would have to be when I gave birth to Brandon. After six years of trying to get pregnant and one miscarriage, we were over the moon! Threw ourselves into Lamaze classes with total abandoned. In fact, Drollery used to get a kick out of calling me at work and blurting out: “contraction begins” when I answered the phone. There was more than once I was in the middle of helping a customer but did it anyway! All of a sudden lapsing into deep, heavy breathing must have made more than one of them think I was getting an obscene phone call! 😀
But when push came to shove (no pun intended), we never got to use our perfected technique. I ended up quite ill with toxemia and the doc felt it was too dangerous for me to go through labor. I ended up having a c-section. And at that time hubbies were NOT allowed into the delivery room as they are today, so Drollery was miserable. We had wanted to experience this birth together.
All grown up and on his honeymoon…
I didn’t get to hold Bran for three days as I had IV’s in both arms and was basically out of it. The day after he was born our Lamaze coach found Drollery standing in the hall outside my room crying. She thought I’d died! No one had told him he could actually go IN the nursery and hold the baby. We both had yet to hold him. She took care of that.
But it was a long hospital stay. Ten days. It certainly didn’t turn out the way we planned. I am, however, proud to say that after 37 years we can STILL do the Lamaze thing where Drollery knows how to put me to sleep in a pinch VERY well. Comes in handy sometimes after nightmares! (Seriously! I am SO NOT kidding! 😮 )
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DAILY PROMPT: My Favorite
What’s the most time you’ve ever spent apart from your favorite person? Tell us about it.
Impromptu Promptlings 
I was Lamaze coach for my neighbor – her husband was Muslim and was not allowed to be the first person to see the baby, so stepped in and helped. In the end, she also had to have a C-section, but I was the first to see her beautiful baby boy. Desmond, the father was there to see him after that. It was a really interesting experience.
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I think that would be such an honor to do that for someone. Pretty cool, Fim.
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Must have been so hard not to get to hold him for 3 days! And good thing that nurse angel came by so Drollery could hold him. Sorry you didn’t get to have the birth experience you both wanted so much. Must have been such sad news when you were told. I’ve known people with Toxemia – had to spend most of their pregnancy in bed. I’m happy Brandon came out ok (pun intended).
Blessings
Mary
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LOL Yeah. And for all the worrying I did about bonding with him, now we can’t get him to move out on his own. He’s 37!
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How sad that the proud (and probably terrified) dad wasn’t allowed to be present at the birth. In this country husbands have been welcomed into the labour suite for over forty years, but I have gone through three out of my four deliveries on my own, as my first husband was squeamish, and only attended the second birth because it happened so suddenly, leaving him no time to escape – but he didn’t faint or vomit, so it was ok. Mike absented himself deliberately; I think it was because I wanted him there, but thinking back, he would have ruined it.
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Problem was it wasn’t a birthing suite, it was an O R at that time. Now I think things are a little different. Back then they were just beginning to give the woman the option of being awake for the c-section. It’s when the big bonding controversy was gathering steam.
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At least some things have changed for the better in this often sad world…
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I know the breathing well….all three were delivered naturally…..but have to say 19 hours the first time was noooooo picnic 😁
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You saying I didn’t miss anything??? LOL
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LOL…….well if pain is your thing?!?!??! 😱😳🙃
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I still use the breathing when I have pain. I had both of kids “natural”. I remember with my son, my mom had brought her MIL into my room while I was in labor. My mom’s MIL was born and raised in Germany. Back in her day they babies differently I guess, because she learned over me when a contraction hit, patted my hand (that had a death grip on the bed rail) and whispered “It’s OK to scream.” Do you know how hard it is to laugh while breathing and grunting like a dog? LOL
I’ve had one miscarriage, at just over 6 weeks. And both of my kids were born a week past my due date. They both still run late to get anywhere! 😉
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And both of my kids were born a week past my due date. They both still run late to get anywhere! 😉 LMBO!!! And NO. I can’t imagine that as I never had to go through labor — dang it! 😦
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I did learn Lamaze and use it still also helped when my babies had babies. I also know the deep sadness of losing or miscarrying although after so many months along they called it an abortion here (which always upset me so much as I would never have had an abortion and that is just me not saying it is wrong just wrong for me). Anyhow I lost 4 babies one at 2 mths, 6 mths 7 mths, 8 mths and then had two preemies so I cherish that I was able to have children. I did have all natural labours but my youngest had a C-section and she was devastated she could not have a natural birth. My oldest had 36 hours of labour and does not plan to have more. Take care and blessed be.
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Wow, Donna… I feel for you. I know how hard it was to lose one at ten weeks, but I can’t even begin to imagine what you went through. What a blessing your kids are. {{{Donna}}}
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Yes they are
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