I think and write a LOT about journeys. I’m especially fascinated with my OWN journey (well, duh!). But this morning when I was reading through the comments on my post Damaged Things, commenting back and forth with Linda (Spiritual Dragonfly) about how I think a lot of us feel damaged and long to whole, I was struck by a) what that being whole might look like (because we’ll never be perfect in the way we were before we were damaged), and b) how even though no one can make our particular journey for us, we don’t have to be alone on those winding paths.
LuAnne (Wind Rush) had referred to wabi-sabi in her comment. At its essence, wabi-sabi is the Japanese art of finding beauty in imperfection… And in my mind’s eye, THAT is what I saw as becoming whole as we make our journeys.
What a perfect explanation of being made whole. Who would not treasure a life that had gone through so many trials to become beautiful in their own “damaged” way?
And our journeys? I don’t think we were ever meant to journey alone. Journeys are hard on you. That’s why they’re not called vacations! (Hm.. Ok. SOME vacations can be hard on you, too! Whatever…) And though each person’s is unique, you will run into other pilgrims on the paths you travel. And they are there for a reason. I think that reason is to help bind up our damaged parts and fill them in with gold…
Marla Gibbs who played maid Florence Johnston on the sitcom The Jeffersons is of the same opinion. She says:
I truly believe that everything that we do and everyone that we meet is put in our path for a purpose. There are no accidents; we’re all teachers – if we’re willing to pay attention to the lessons we learn, trust our positive instincts and not be afraid to take risks or wait for some miracle to come knocking at our door.
One of those risks, in my opinion, is learning to reach out to others and be a part of their healing… That GOLD stuff you see in the picture above, that’s GRACE, the endowment of compassion and dignity on another person (though it can be even harder to bestow that GRACE on ourselves…but that’s a different post). The ability to impart GRACE is a gift we all have. For some of us we’ve just forgotten we have it, or maybe we never knew because we’ve never been on the receiving end of it. But GRACE is one of those gifts like LOVE. The more of it you give away, the more you seem to have.
Is there someone in your life whose cracks you can begin to help fill? Can you see places where their chips could be patched with a few words of GRACE or a kind act? It’s something worth thinking about…