It’s been a long time since I’ve let my mind wander on a Sunday. But I was just posting a response to alongtheinterstice on yesterday’s Saturday Sound Bites about dreams, and it brought to mind something Pastor Gary said at church today.
He was talking about living a life of faith and how it’s not about “winning,” but about “process.” There is no winning when you are trying to live out a life of love toward others, there’s only the process of trying, succeeding, failing, trying again… It truly is the process of being transformed oneself that is the lesson in it all.
How does that have anything to do with dreams? Well, I’ve come to the conclusion that sometimes the “wanting” is better than the “having.” All my life I’ve wanted to travel around the UK. That’s been my “dream” vacation. Last September, after nearly two years of planning, we were scheduled to go with our best friends to England, Scotland, Ireland, and France. But in June I was suddenly diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder that made it impossible for us to go. The funny thing was, as we said so long to our friends (who went ahead and made the trip), I found I wasn’t really all that upset… Strange? After all, I’d been dreaming of this since high school.
Then I saw a similar thing happen to his nibs at Christmas. For the 46 years we’ve been married Arn has talked about wanting a leather bomber jacket. But every time he’d run across one he liked, he’d never buy it. So this year for Christmas I surprised him with a beautiful brown one. He looks great in it! But the first thing he said when he put it on was, “Wow! This is heavy. AND hot!” He’s worn it twice, and it’s now hanging in the closet where I expect it will stay for who knows how long. So what I observed from him, too, was that wanting that jacket was actually better than having it.
Alongtheinterstice commented that “…in the past chasing dreams has been an emotionally exhausting affair.” Thinking of all the years I pined for that trip and Arn longed for that jacket — I get that. And ATI’s comment made me wonder if Gary’s message was relevant to dreams as well. Perhaps not ALL dreams are meant to be realized. Perhaps sometimes they’re just a process that pulls us into the future when we can’t seem to get there on our own.
What do you think? Do you believe all dreams are meant to be pursued and realized?