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Good morning! And thank God it’s Friday!!! It’s been a long week with pulling all the loose ends together for our deck project, and a flooded basement! We’ve had virtually NO rain all summer. Then Wednesday we got as much as we get in a year. It backed all the sewer drains up and our basement smells like it! His nibs was ripping carpet out at 9:00 last night. Now we have to have a crew come in and power wash and sanitize everything. Doesn’t that sound like fun??? 😦
But that’s not why I’m blogging today. A few weeks ago I stopped by my friend Janet’s blog at Elixir: Footnotes from the Third Age. Janet had recently spent five weeks house sitting for one of her kids in Perth, Australia. She had planned on this being a sort of retreat time for her writing, but she found out that was easier said than done.
She did, however come away with some lessons to ponder from her time there, and some questions for others. I really appreciated what she had to say and thought I’d give answering those questions a shot. (My answers are in green.) Please do stop by and read her full blog at Lessons Learned in Perth.
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It is easy for me to be alone. Sometimes too easy. (How easy or difficult is it for you to be alone for a long period of time?)
I have to be in just the right mood to be alone and enjoy it. I’m pretty comfortable with my own company and you would generally find me scribbling in my journal if I have some quality “me” time. BUT! When the being alone goes on and on and on, I begin to miss the stimulation of interacting with other folks. That happens a lot these days since I’m home alone nearly every day of the week now. One day has started blurring into the next. And I find myself asking with Peggy Lee, “Is that all there is?” I thought my life would be very different than this. Before the MG thing happened 18 months ago I was ALWAYS on the go. I’ve found it’s been really unnatural for me to slow down…
I am braver than I think but not always, and that is okay. (When was the last time you felt brave?)
That depends on who I’m around! I’m always brave in the neurologist’s office. (Or it may be that I’m just plain stubborn!) It’s very unnerving to sit and discuss life-saving methods in case of a Myasthenia crisis. But I refuse to give into the fear that creeps up the back of my neck…till I get out to the car!
I can be stressed, unhappy and exhausted but I can still examine, analyse, reflect, plan and problem solve … though exhaustion slows the process. (How do you work through the hard times?)
Well, there’s where that bull-headed streak comes in handy again. I just force myself to keep going. I know instinctively that if I sit down even to rest for too long, I will fizzle out on whatever I’m doing. So I put my head down and charge at tasks just like that bull!
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My family and friends have a unique knack of saying and doing the right thing at the right time. (When was the last time a friend or loved one came through for you just at the right moment?)
Last weekend. I was sitting with my brother-in-law (who is paralyzed) so my sister could get some much needed time away. I was stressing because I try to do laundry on the weekends when the guys are home to carry the clean clothes up stairs for me, and I had four loads sorted out to do. But Lo and Behold! when I got home, his nibs had done them all! Yeah, I’d say he came through for me. What a relief!
Relative strangers are a felicitous blessing. (How has a stranger helped you?)
This is an easy one. It just happened! We had gone out to dinner at the Sizzler Steak House and were waiting in line when the gal in front of us turned and asked us if we knew the Steak and Malibu Chicken were on sale for $6.99 instead of the normal $12. We didn’t! You can be sure I thanked her. It was very sweet of her to tell us. I like to think I don’t know many strangers.
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There! I told Janet I would do that WEEKS ago. I think I’m finally getting caught up with myself!
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Picture Sources:
Deck — moi
Frog — The BridgeMaker
Girl — Wake Up World
Bull– Flickr
Clothes — Yummy Mummy Club
Helping Stranger — The Situationist – WordPress.com
LuAnne Holder said:
I’m going to answer your question, Cheryl, about when a friend came to your aid at just the right time. Right after the election, I feel into a terrible slump. A friend of mine called (we live 900 miles apart now) and heard the depression in my voice and challenged me to write every day – hand write not the computer writing I mostly do. So for a week, I wrote her a hand written letter and then started writing poetry again.
Another time when I was going through my divorce, had a toddler son and no money, another friend encouraged me to go to Jazzercize classes with her. She set it up so that I could babysit for the class before ours – make a little money – and then have a sitter take care of my son while I jazzercized. Then afterwards the three of us would go out to eat and I could afford it with my babysitting money. This social and physical outlet was just what I needed when I needed it.
Both of these friends were teachers I had worked with. How blessed I have been!
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calensariel said:
Thous sayest rightly! There is no more blessed gifts than a true and loyal friend!
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juliathorley said:
Plenty of food for thought there, thank you. Being alone is fine at the moment, but that’s because I can choose when I want company and when I’m OK by myself. I dare say it’s a different kettle of fish when solitude is thrust upon you.
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calensariel said:
Yes, Julia. I agree. I was always ok with being alone when the choice was mine. But I’m not driving much now, and I feel really penned up. It’s taken me 18 months, but I think it’s really starting to wear on me…
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spiritualdragonfly said:
You know me and how I feel about my solitude…..with Jim gone I do find that the solitude can and sometimes does slip into loneliness…but that has been rectified some now that I’m a part of a Meetup group for widows and widowers … I’ve a ‘new tribe’ and friends…..being a part of something gives my life new meaning and purpose …..
😱😱😱 So sorry about the flooding!! Here we made it through Florence and you end up with water 😬
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calensariel said:
LOL Yeah. Weird how that worked, eh? (I love that word “tribe” btw…)
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Soul Gifts said:
Me-time is what I call it. And I love it. If my nibs is away I use it as a kind of recharge time. And of course I arrange catch ups lunches with friends so that gives me the company I want. But I can imagine it would get stultifying if there was no relief to it and there was nothing to fill the days. That doesn’t seem to be a problem for me. Filling the days.
How awful that you’ve been flooded! Must have been a really heavy downpour! Hope it’s sorted out by now.
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calensariel said:
Nope, not yet. We’ve had to pull carpet up and we just realized this afternoon that it also got into Bran’s room. So right now we’re going through stuff that got wet, etc. And the disaster cleaners will come out this week and disinfect and sanitize everywhere it got wet. What a mess…
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Soul Gifts said:
Oh dear…..
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ivor20 said:
I’m always very much lone these days, however I seemed to be getting used to the situation, and I’m enjoying the company of Cyndi,(A cuddly Cavalier) watching my every move. https://1drv.ms/u/s!Asumt4cZ9A65g_wTI9Hr_YQkpYEoWg
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calensariel said:
Ahh… but one is never truly alone when there is a Four-footed Child-critter around for company. Sometimes I even like them better than people. Twitch and I have a marvelous time together. If it weren’t for having to get up every 10 minutes to let her in and out, I’d never get any exercise. 😀
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ivor20 said:
Yes, I understand completely about that exercise part xx
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calensariel said:
That little woman has you wrapped around her little paw, doesn’t she! LOL 😆
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loristrawn said:
…and here’s the link to that contest! https://www.fanstory.com/contestdetails.jsp?id=105232
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calensariel said:
Thank you, my dear. I asked on the other blog from today but I hadn’t seen this one yet. Thanks for sending that along, I’ll take a look at it.
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Opher said:
I like to be alone. It gives me time to write. I can focus without interruption (apart from the web). But I’m not sure it’s good for me.
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calensariel said:
I don’t think being alone too much is good for anybody. It can lead to depression. Especially in older adults. Though I think recent research shows it’s just as prevalent among younger people, including children and teens. Do you and your good lady get out very much, Opher?
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