About Impromptu Promptlings

Ryan-Deboodt-2-1024x682“The great wisdom for writers, perhaps for everybody, is to come to understand to be at one with their own tempo.” -Alan Hollinghurst

This quote from Ryan Lanz’s Ten Quote Tuesday resonates for me at such a deep level that it, along with the Who I Am and Why I’m Here exercise from Blogging 101, caused me to change my About page. I decided that scribbling down a list of the touch points of my life would, indeed, help you to know about me, but not know me.

For years now I’ve been asking myself who I was before the world told me who I ought to be. I’ve been searching frantically for that spontaneous child inside who doesn’t see the world with the same negative tendencies that I seem to have become mired in over the years. The one who always found life to be such an adventure thanks to a dad that made the world a fun place for her and her siblings. I crave that freedom. That spirit of aliveness and curiosity.

She’s so foreign to me now. Sometimes I feel as if I’m in a cage, hemmed in, can’t breath. So many responsibilities and goals as we approach retirement knowing how much more restricted our life is apt to be by then. I’m panicking inside. It’s as if she’s calling to me, telling me if I don’t let her out right now I may never have the chance again.

A couple years ago I journaled my way through Sarah Ban Breathnach’s Something More: Excavating Your Authentic Self. I read each little essay then responded in my journal. Some of the things I found out about myself surprised me. Some of them I’d been afraid to even admit to myself. But most importantly, I knew if I didn’t find a way to grab hold of those bits and pieces of me I was gathering while spelunking in that cave that’s my soul, I’d be full of regrets at the end of my life.

Unfortunately, much of what I’d like to have seen and done in my life will never come to pass. Age, finances, family obligations, any number of things now stand in my way. But I came out of that cave knowing myself a whole lot better. I was far more in touch with the rhythm of who that little girl was. It was so worth the better part of a year it took me to get through it. Every section from Romancing the Soul to Shattered to Something More spoke directly to my heart.

I’ve reread the book twice now. Slowly. Seriously. Soulfully. And with each reading I’ve soaked up a bit more of the melody of that young life. I’m still trying to align my heart rhythm with what I’ve learned of that child, trying to live my life at a tempo she would find both stimulating and comforting. It’s not easy after all these years. But it’s happening. Little by little I’m learning to identify the ebbs and flows in my personality and moods, and it’s helped me realize I don’t have to let people shove me back into that cage because they’re inconvenienced by who I’m turning out to be. It’s a very liberating feeling — when I get brave enough to give into it. Baby steps.

We’re all created with our own special melody running through our DNA. I believe learning to recognize and participate in that music, to live our lives at our own unique tempo is one of the most important things we must do for ourselves. Only then, I think, can we be who we were intended to be, not who the world demands we become.

And so Impromptu Promptlings and Peculiar Ponderings has become another tool on my spelunking belt to use in the forays I’ll continue to make into the cave of my soul. Along with posts about subjects near and dear to my heart, I’ll be using this space to play around with writing prompts, since I’m trying to figure out whether I’m interested enough in it (or good enough at it!) to edit the Gothic mystery manuscript I finished during NaNoWriMo last year. If you stop by the mouth of the cave, be sure to give me a holler. You’ll probably hear some music coming from below. It might surprise you. I think the melody of my life is actually along the lines of the Conan the Barbarian soundtrack!

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121 thoughts on “About Impromptu Promptlings”

  1. Wonderful Blog Page!

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  2. Nice! What a lovely bio! I love your creativity and humor! ❤️​

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  3. Glad to have met you Calensariel, you always have something insightful to say. I have added you to my list of Inspirational Bloggers.

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  4. glad to have found your blog 🙂

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  5. Wonderful to have discovered you here and find my mornings illuminated – sometimes a smile, sometimes the furrowed brow.

    Regards Thom.

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  6. I’ve nominated you for the 3 quotes 3 day challenge – I hope that’s ok with you…
    https://janebasilblog.wordpress.com/2016/09/23/3-quotes-3-day-challenge-day-1/

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  7. Beautiful about page. Thanks for sharing your journeys.

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  8. Khaya Ronkainen said:

    Hi! I’m so delighted to stumble upon your blog. Love it, and I’ll be catching up on your stories.

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    • Thanks, Khaya. (What a beautiful name, btw. New to me!) (Great Gravatar pix! Lovethe hat. Lots of attitude!) Thanks so much for the follow and for stopping to comment. Hope to see you around the blogs. 😀

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  9. revengestar said:

    your blog slays!

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  10. Thanks for the follow. See you around!

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  11. Hello – I have a confession to make. I’ve nominated you for an award 😦 It is with the most sincere and heartfelt intentions, knowing that you are award free. There are no hooks, I promise – well, just one that you will (I hope) enjoy. Here’s the link
    http://soulgifts.com.au/2016/02/24/my-acceptance-speech/

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  12. So glad I stumbled across your writings! I have been sitting here soaking in a few of your posts. Lovely! I can’t wait to read more!

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  13. Welcome to the Company !

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  14. I’ve been having fun. This is for you:
    https://janebasilblog.wordpress.com/2015/12/13/non-nominate/

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  15. Why we tend to lose our self in life starts out in the home. We tucked ourselves away in a identifying role which obtained value and suppressed anxiety for us. We then played the same at counterparting opposite our mate, jobs, community crowds etc.. This is why often we find at the extreme end of life that we have aided the suffocation of our soul. Sorry for preaching. You have a great blog, it is so pretty and actually revolutionary.

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    • This is why often we find at the extreme end of life that we have aided the suffocation of our soul. I agree with that and would add that it doesn’t necessarily happen at the extreme end of life. Sometimes I think certain traumas can trigger the same reaction of realizing that our soul doesn’t fit in our reality. I believe it can happen at any age. That’s why I encourage even my young friends to get to know themselves before that self is buried under a boatload of debris. If that makes sense.

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      • Well, yes, shock, trauma, crisis all of these can aid one into a self assessing which can lead to self rebirth. The obvious reason for this is because it shatters what we built as a “reality”. It was merely a comfort zone, an identification with value and preferential.

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      • Have to agree with you on that. I can tell from your comments that you take this all very seriously, too. It’s a comfort to me to find others who are making the journey. I was just over at your blog reading part one of your current blog. Interesting stuff.

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      • Glad you find it of interest

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  16. I’ve been meaning to ask you for ages – could I use your “Award free blog” sign on my blog, please? That is if I ever get around to putting it on a widget…

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  17. Hi! I just wanted to let you know I’ve tagged you in the 3 day, 3 quote challenge. You can see my post for details: https://acupofenglishtea.wordpress.com/2015/08/17/day-1-quote-1/ . Of course, do not feel obligated to participate! I figured you might have some good quotes to share, but I completely understand if you don’t have time or don’t want to.

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  18. Randomly selecting other bloggers following blogging101 I came across your page. What a lovely, thoughtful, reflective place it is. I’ll be coming back here to read more. “Soul spelunking” is such a resonant phrase, makes me want to explore your writing.
    I just amended my About page today, and it will do for now, but what you’ve written here – “know about me but not know me” – is pretty much what I think I’m looking for.
    Glad I found you, looking forward to reading more.

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  19. How wonderful to meet YOU!!! Now I want to rewrite my about page! I could copy and paste a few sections! So glad you found yourself so to speak! I look forward to following you!
    My blogging 101 site I’m trying to improve is http://lifetimeofforgiveness.wordpress.com.
    When you click on my name it takes you to my husband’s and my Adventure Travelogue. In the beginning, 2011, it was our “marriage blog.” We have a powerful re-marriage story after we divorced. We had been married 13 years. Now we’re up to 40!

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  20. I love the look of your blog as well as your writing. I read “Something More” several years ago though I didn’t journal with it. Have you read “The Artist’s Way”? If not, I think you would enjoy it.

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    • Yes!!! That’s the book that started it all for me years ago. I think I’ve read pert near all of Julia Cameron’s books. I really like “The Right to Write.” I’ve journaled through every one of them. And to my amazement after really fighting her assignment to make a collage, that was one of the things I got the most pleasure out of. Have done several of them. I have a resource page in the menu with some of my books listed on. “Life’s Companion: Journal Writing as a Spiritual Practice” by Christina Baldwin and “Write from the Heart” by Leslea Newman are two of my other favorites. “The Playful Way to Serious Writin” by Roberta Allen is full of all kinds of exercises that tap into your energy. She’s all about energy. I’m always happy when I find other people who have shared that writing path. Thanks for telling me!

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  21. JMDLEFLORE said:

    So here I am again, I have decided to revamp my page and for the most part I am done, which is why I missed a post yesterday, however I am looking at how to do my about me page and I really love the aura yours presents. Wondering how I can do something similar. Writing about yourself is kind of hard, you don’t know what to share and you want people to accept. You keep inspiring me I like the idea of starting with a quote, I have written this down my friend.

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    • Thanks, J! You know I did the whole About page for Blogging 101 then scrapped it because it was just a list of facts about me. I decided people could take the time to get to know me on my blog if they followed. I wanted to share something a bit more intimate and intriguing without giving everything away. That’s why I did it this way. And springboarding on a quote was just right for me. Hope it works for you, too. Can’t wait to see what you do. Boy, you sure have been lit up lately. You should try to submit “No Consent For Adoption” to a literary magazine somewhere. It totally blew me away. ❤

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      • JMDLEFLORE said:

        Thank you so much. You know I guess I am in search of finding myself and my thoughts and somehow they have been hitting lately. I never thought of submitting work to a literary magazine before. But I will most definitely look into that. Thanks for giving me the idea.

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      • JMDLEFLORE said:

        I am really happy you think it is good enough to be showcased in that light 🙂

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  22. I love your spelunking, too! Really creative and I love the imagery you’ve created in y mind! So funny to see all your nominations. Maybe there is something to it….
    I just found you via Blogging 101 and your Title and tag line captured me.
    I have two blogs, one for my husband’s and my travel adventures (my name is linked to it.) But the one for here is where I am trying to find my own voice and am on my own spiritual journey: https://lifetimeofforgiveness.wordpress.com

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    • I stopped by your blog. Enjoyed reading your About page and your last post. Spiritual journeys are so different for all of us, aren’t they? I wish you the best of luck on yours and pray that you will be like a sponge and soak it all up, ponder on it, sift it, and take what you need to become the best YOU you can be. And thanks so much for stopping by to chat!!! 😀

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      • Thank you for stopping by!. I also appreciate your comments. Yes, I think all of us are on some type of journey in this life. It is always great connecting with other people who are also seeking truth and fulfillment in their lives. Have you ever spelunked, by the way? I only learned about it from a game our daughter used to play. We do love to go into caverns, but nothing quite as adventuresome.

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      • LOL No actual spelunking experience, except for Old Man’s Cave in Ohio (which I’ve been to many times when I was growing up) and Rocky City in Tennessee. BOTH well traveled tourist sights! 😀

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      • We’ll have to put them on our must see list!

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  23. You have a new notification.
    You have a new nomination.

    https://theblogofkarthi.wordpress.com/2015/05/06/and-the-award-goes-to/

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    • Thank you so much, Karthi. I appreciate it. I’ve been nominated before and have always passed on them. I’m just not much a chain-letter type person. But congrats on being nominated yourself! I loved your answers, especially #1. I actually liked Proust’s questions, too. So just for the hey of it I’m going to answer them in a blog, just for you!

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  24. Calen, I’ve nominated you for the Creative Blogger Award, but I see that you have already been nominated last month and declined. Maybe you will change your mind? Either way, you could take a look at my link to it here: https://susanrobertswriter.wordpress.com/2015/04/23/creative-blogger-nomination/

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    • Susan, thank you so much. I have declined all of them. I guess I’ve never really been a “chain letter” kind of person. But I appreciate the thought and I keep them all right here in my heart!

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  25. Hi, I have nominated you for the Creative Blogger Award at https://thebookblogger2014.wordpress.com/2015/03/18/milestone-corner-with-cba/ . I would be honoured if you accepted (though understand that there are reasons why you may decline), but please keep up the great blogging whatever your decision!
    Thank you and all the best, TheBookBlogger2014

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    • Hey Matt! Thanks so much for the nomination. I’ve had several different kinds but have chosen not to participate because I was still getting my blog up and running. And now I’m over the 200 mark on followers, to my amazement. But I really appreciate your thinking of me. I will continue to enjoy your blog immensely, however. You do a terrific job over that. Keep up the good work. And thanks again for the nomination.

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  26. Hi Calen,

    I’m about to invite you to join in a challenge I recently accepted. Five Photos, Five Stories. I though this challenge could present you with an opportunity to showcase Wits End Cottage or anything else for that matter. It’s entirely up to you.

    You are my day four person and the post will publish at midday on Friday. (Australian time that is.)

    Here’s the link: http://mycreativecosmos.com/five-photos-five-stories/

    I’ll understand if you’re too busy to accept, but of cause, I’d be thrilled if you did.

    Clare

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  27. Hi Calen, I’ve nominated you to take part in “Love in10 Sentences”. I hope you feel like sharing the love! Here’s the link.
    https://janebasilblog.wordpress.com/2015/03/02/love-in-ten-sentences/

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  28. Hi Calen. I’ve nominated you to take part in “Love in10 Sentences”. I hope you feel like sharing the love! Here’s the link.
    https://janebasilblog.wordpress.com/2015/03/02/love-in-ten-sentences/

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  29. I’ve come to your page to offer you a gift. you may have found it already, but if you haven’t please check this out. It had me in stitches. I haven’t laughed so much in a long time.https://triformy.wordpress.com/2015/02/26/bananas/

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    • Gawd! That almost makes me want to dig out a magazine and try that myself. I wonder how that world work with Smithsonian? LOL Thanks for sharing. That was actually quite interesting — surprisingly!

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      • It was cleverly aranged, but the bit about bananashad me falling all over the place laughing – maybe I have an odd sense of humour!
        I’m sorry you didn’t enjoy the poetry course, but if you felt that way the best thing to do was to give it up.
        I’ve found it incredibly helpful and inspiring, not least because of the support that I have received from the community.

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    • Yeah, after doing Blogging 101 and then the poetry class, it really started to feel like an actual community. I thought that was pretty cool — and unexpected.

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  30. I think I mentioned that I bought the book, “Something More,” which you talked about here. Did you read “Simple Abundance” first?

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    • No, I was/am struggling with a lot of faith issues. Have been for awhile. So I was not in a place to focus on being thankful for anything. It was the reference to excavating that caught my attention in the book. Maybe once I’ve resolved my other issues I will be able to pick that book up and read it. At the moment I’m journaling through her book “Peace & Plenty.” Not too into it. I hope you like the book. It was just what I needed at the time I needed it.

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  31. i so like your blog!

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  32. You have a truly inspiring blog! So much of what I read here was like seeing myself, if that makes sense. Your mention of the ‘little girl’ inside is something I recently had an epiphany about, for myself. I call her ‘Little Girl Lost’ because that is what she had been for too many of my years. I hope to be working on giving her the reins and seeing where our journey leads.

    Your statement: “We’re all created with our own special melody running through our DNA. I believe learning to recognize and participate in that music, to live our lives at our own unique tempo is one of the most important things we must do for ourselves. Only then, I think, can we be who we were intended to be, not who the world demands we become.” resonated a great deal with me! It’s always great to uplifting words.

    I’ve always seen music as ‘Medicine for the Soul,’ and live and dance to my own symphonies, with help from all the very talented singer/songwriters, and musicians. My inner music led me here to blogging 101, 201, and going forward.

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  33. I’ve nominated you for the Sisterhood of the World Bloggers award: https://themanywritingsofadinah.wordpress.com/2015/02/12/sisterhood-of-the-world-bloggers-award/

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    • Oh my dear, I thank you so much. It means a lot to me when folks include me in these things. I’m one of those weird people that has issues with recognition. Don’t like to put myself out there. So I’ve just said thanks to everyone and hoped they understand why I don’t take them up on it. Doing this blog at all has been a HUGE step for me. It was, however, just enough behind the scenes I thought I could manage it. I’m getting over some of that anxiety. So thanks again. You’re such a lovely person.

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  34. I really enjoyed your About Impromptu Promptlings. I am interested in looking into that book “Something more-excavating your Authentic Self”, sounds like something right up my alley. A long time ago I read Miguel Ruiz’ “The Four Agreements”. It was then I decided I would be ME, not who others need or want me to be. I’ve taught my family that I will be there for them, but I can only be there as Me. I too consider my self a pilgrim, actually sometimes more like a gypsy or a rolling stone, but I’m always looking to learn from my life’s experiences. I loved the phrase “melody of my life”. I’ve enjoyed having my own “theme song” to carry me through different passages in my life. Enjoyed the Enya video as well.
    I will look forward to more of your work. Thanks for sharing.

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  35. Hey! I have been following your blog for quite sometime. I find your blog to be unique and pleasantly different. I was recently honoured with the Versatile Blogger Award and I would like to nominate your blog for the same. I don’t know if you were already nominated for it, but still I would be truly honored if you accept. The rules for the award can be perused at https://dreamingwordz.wordpress.com/2015/01/30/maiden-versatility/

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    • Thanks so much, Sheetal, I appreciate it. I’ve been nominated for a couple other things on here but I kind of don’t like doing the whole question/answer thing so I haven’t used them. But I sure do appreciate your thinking of me. I’ve been watching for more posts from you, too. But when I checked last night I think the last one was on the 13th. How have you been? Ok?

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      • Hey there! I am fine, thank you. I hope you are doing good too. You are right, I did not write for a while. Life just keeps happening! But I’ll be writing soon. I really appreciate you looking out for posts from me. That means so much!! Thanks again.
        And don’t worry about the question/answer stuff for the award. I did it coz its my first one 😉

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      • Glad to hear all is well, and am looking forward to reading more of your stuff!

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  36. Love this! I’ve had stories in my head since I was a child, but I’ve been afraid to put them down in writing. I admire your spunk!

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  37. Oh how I love your blog 🙂 … you could have taken the words from my mouth, I know EXACTLY how you’re feeling.

    I must read this book, before it’s too late for me x

    I love the layout of your blog and the colours 🙂 just beautiful. Easy on the eye and such a pleasure to linger here x

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    • Thanks so much for coming back. And I heartily recommend that book. It’s not one you can hurry through. For me it felt a lot like sipping a cappucino at Starbucks off in a corner somewhere. That always feels like a mini-vacation for me. I found the collage she had you do very surprising. Some things that ended up on my page amazed me. Some kind of embarrassed me because no one who knows me would ever think I’d be interested in some of the stuff I glued on there. LOL I felt just like a kid cutting and pasting those pictures. (Which was probably the point!)

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  38. littlesnowflake said:

    Hi! I have nominated you for the “Sisterhood of the World Bloggers” award!
    You can check it out here! https://distinctrhythm.wordpress.com/2015/01/17/sisterhood-of-the-world-bloggers-award/
    Happy blogging! 😀

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  39. loristrawn said:

    I am loving your blog! Must read this book!

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    • Journaling through it felt like quite an indulgence. The whole book is covered with stickers as is my journal. Keys for important realizations, hearts for deep things I was struggling with… I was like a little kid. LOL

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  40. Its crazy how we can grow in the midst of adversity and happiness. We all learn a lot along the way. I think your about me page is great.

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    • Still struggling with the whole look of the thing. Your blog is nice and clean. I may have to go looking for something else like that. You did a great job.

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      • Thank you for the compliment on my blog. I must say your blog had me distracted I wanted to focus on the about Impromptu section but your other post stood out to me. You have to find what speaks to you whole heartedly I understand but I think what you have chosen goes well with your content.

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  41. Love your spelunking!

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