Lewis Carroll, “Alice In Wonderland”
Each one of us is constantly evolving.
Have you changed for the better
in the past year?
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This question is a double-edged sword for me. When I had my Myasthenia flare-up in January, my social life became a network of doctors again. The thing I hated the most about it was waiting for test results. The lab people doing the testing know you only as a number and, I suspect, they don’t give much thought to the fact that you’re sitting home on pins and needles waiting for the results of those tests. Doctors have a bit more empathy for a patient, but they have a LOT of patients to look after and you can get lost in the cracks.
But here we are, seven months into this (what has been an awful year for our family), and I think I’m finally learning to be more patient. And I’m pleased to say that patience has been extended to everyone in my life — except myself. I guess I always hold myself to a higher standard than anyone else. Sadly…
How about you? Has anything happened so far this year to change you for the better?
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I might be able to answer one way or the other by year’s end. So far it’s been a very rocky road (and I’m not talking ice cream here). Truth be told, I feel like I’ve been in a holding pattern for the last 13 years. Mindfulness work helps on occasion.
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You are such a sweet lady. Please try to be more patient with yourself, and, in particular, be kind to yourself. You deserve it.
I do understand waiting on test results. We don’t realize how much of medicine is waiting, and we often don’t realize that that’s one of the worst parts.
As for something that has helped to change me for the better, I did finally find someone. He’s a wonderful man. I have a health condition that sometimes makes me feel “broken.” He reminds me that I’m not, and while people may have things that they deal with, they do not make those people “broken.”
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I’m so happy for you! I wondered where you had disappeared to. You’ve been gone awhile. Are you doing well? ❤
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Thank you. 🙂 He’s really a special guy. I have been gone a while. I got overwhelmed with teaching and PhD work, but I think that I’ve finally gotten the hang of it (well . . . kind of). I’ve missed the WordPress community so much, particularly because of sweet people like you. 🙂
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Good Lord! You DID have a lot on your plate, didn’t you! Well welcome back, my friend. ❤
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Calen: I was so glad to see your post…ahh, patience…not my best quality…glad you’re tackling life with a healthy mix of patience and understanding and vim and vigor.
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Oh my gosh… Who said anything about vim and vigor! LOL Good to see you, my friend! Hope your summer has been a good one. Any trips this year?
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I have been so tired with work and all the family gyrations that I haven’t posted in forever…seeing you back in action will give me the boost to begin again…love/need the creative outlet… We traveled to China in January for a Make-A-Wish trip…oh my…what a trip. We have a little jaunt this week to Florida…ah, Florida. Stay tuned. 🙂
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Well be careful in the water. There are news articles about flesh-eating bacteria coming out of Florida! Hope you get to chill out a bit. You’ve had a pretty full plate the last few years, hon. ❤
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Like you Cheryl I think. I feel I am patient with most people apart from myself. Learning to apply more patience to myself is a work in progress and maybe this blogging break will facilitate the process.
Although quite stressful at the time. At the end of last year I experienced physical stress symptoms and visited my doctor and we discussed. We agreed that,rather than treating my ‘friends’ as clients on a caseload as in my former life of Health Visiting and cared of mum r.i.p., I should make myself my caseload. Not an eAsy task but doable with patience.
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Oh, Margaret. I so hear you. Are women hard-wired to put everyone else first?
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Yes Cheryl some women are 🙂❤️
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My husband recently became quite ill with three treatable conditions, each one however interfering with the treatment of the others. As his mobility has become limited, I have taken over a lot of chores that I had depended on him for. It made me realize I had taken so much of what he does for me for granted. It has really deepened my love for him. Additionally, it has made me more independent. I let him do stuff for me that I am quite capable of doing but was being lazy to always depend on him. In fact this whole situation has brought our whole family closer.
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That sounds very much like what'[s happened here since the Myasthenia diagnoses. Only it’s his nibs who is having to do more now. It’s quite an adjustment. I wonder if he thinks our family has grown closer… That’s an interesting question, LuAnne. I might have to ask him. I hope things continue to go well for you guys. ❤
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Thank you, Cheryl. I hope things improve at your home too. Sending wishes of good health to you and your nibs.
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I’ve learned that sometimes the best thing to do is to do nothing. Some problems are like scabs: if you pick at them they get worse, but if you leave them alone they get better on their own.
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Julia! How did you learn to be so wise??? ❤
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Patience is good – being a patient is hard.
This year is another good one for me. I just get older!
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Really? I could have sworn you were only — hm… — 17? 😀 Are you still battling the world on your blog?I will catch up with you shortly.
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Yes Calen, over this last 37 years of my life…. I’ve learnt the art of patience… to be patient with other people and patient with myself…… Thirty years of being a devoted carer for Carole during her MS, …. Personally suffering three strokes during these years, the last one back in December, having being both physically and mentally challenging (Almost beyond my capabilities to recover)…..I’ve endured the death’s of my wife and her parents, then both of my parents. I’ve had my stepson chose not to see me since his mother’s death ( he’s yet to see her grave site), and despite all this trauma, my patience with the world has remained reasonably intact…….
After my trip to Philadelphia, 5 weeks ago, I seem to have been mentally rejuvenated, hopefully my upcoming spring and summer, my life’s health and attitude shall stay at this comfortable status quo……….. Cheers xx
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So glad to catch up with you a little, Ivor. It is very amazing what you have gone through. You’re such an inspiration. I hope you have a good spring and summer! ❤
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Thank you Calen… I just try to make the out of what comes my… Always look on the bright side… “Don’t let the world bring you down” ….!! xx
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Loosing the vision in my eye. I’m grateful the surgery was successful, but the weeks leading up to the surgery forced me to ‘see’ life in a whole new light and perspective, figuratively and literally. It’s humbling. It was a reminder to me to really ‘see’ how easy it is to take our lives for granted.
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You know, Malcolm Muggeridge once said: “…every happening, great or small,
is a parable whereby God speaks to us; and the art of life is to get the message.”
You have such a beautiful way of teaching that, hon… ❤
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