Hey, ya’ll! It’s HUMP day! Hope you’ve had a good first half of the week and the rest is a bit on the chill side. In the meantime I found something else to think about from “If… (Questions for the Game of Life)”.
Now you might think from the title of this blog that I’m talking about something material. But nope. Material possessions are transient. Here today, gone tomorrow, you can’t take ’em with, and all those cliches… There are far many other things in our lives that are more important. Today’s question wants to know about one of them.
If you had to choose the single most valuable thing you ever learned, what would it be?
Geez… I could make a whole list of things. Especially since I’m a s-l-o-w learner and seem to need to repeat a LOT of that learning process! But if I had to choose one lesson in particular, it’s the importance of CONNECTION — that being fully present with a person when you’re with them.
My kids taught me that. And I’m still not great at it. But I’ve learned that when I sit down to talk to them I’d best put down my book, stop blogging, even stop cooking dinner if needs be. Why? I can multitask just fine! But I can’t look them in the eyes and let them know I’m hearing what they’re saying if my attention is all over the place.
Yes, we learn through the years what things we can slide on and what things we can’t, but we also can hear when there’s something at stake in a conversation. And I believe whole-heartedly when someone has something important to say, if they don’t feel like it was received by the listener, they don’t feel they made a connection and they go away still burdened by what they need to communicate. And I, myself, may have lost something important in the transaction. Does that make sense?
What about you guys? What important lessons have you learned over the years? Lessons that have impacted you in an indelible way?
You may think this TED Talk is about horses, but it’s about so much more!